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Women or men: who should have more money in a relationship

Two arguments and a middle ground for who should have more money in a relationship between women and men
Two arguments and a middle ground for who should have more money in a relationship between women and men
Two arguments and a middle ground for who should have more money in a relationship between women and men

Women having more money

Gender inequality is still a pervasive issue in society with governments in Sub-Sahara losing billions because of it. Because of this inequality, women are still underpaid for similar jobs as men and are more likely to take a break or part-time off work or their careers to tend to family.

Such circumstances create hurdles for women in pursuit of financial independence. With more money in a relationship, women can enjoy greater control over their finances and feel empowered to handle career breaks and such.

Another case for women having the financial upper hand is that it can bring more balance in power dynamics in a relationship. Traditionally, the person with more money in the relationship enjoys more control over decision-making and tends to be the "leader". By having more financial influence, women can enjoy equality in decision-making.

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The bottom line is having more money can free up women to experience more internal security, self-worth and independence to leave certain situations and to support themselves and their children if any. When relationships turn unhealthy and abusive, women can feel trapped due to financial dependency. 

Men having more money

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The social argument for men having more money is that it has always been that way. Men have been expected to be breadwinners since the dawn of man, and taking away this crucial tradition may leave some feeling emasculated.

They may also suffer feelings of shame from earning less money than their partners. Therefore, having more money can help men fulfil their gender role expectations and reaffirm their masculinity.

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To back the argument above, men are also often expected to pay for expensive items and provide for their families. To meet these pricey expectations, men may need to earn more money.

There's also an argument that men exhibit more financial responsibility such as investment whereas women stay away from risky ventures. By having more money, men can create and build wealth for families through these opportunities.

Middle ground

In reality, financial decisions should be influenced by individual circumstances and agreements rather than gender roles. Couples can split bills halfway or in rations that reflect the inequality in their earnings.

At the end of the day, financial decisions should be made based on the relationship and individual needs. However, an impartial split would be contributing an equal percentage of their income to expenses.

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