How to become his queen

In a relationship context, couples often refer to the other as King and Queen where the relationship is the kingdom and love is royalty, right? The words are used with affectionate undertones to represent how one feels about and with another.

Even when the title has no recognised implications, it still influences relationship conduct to whatever extent in each couple.

So how do you actually become Queen to your bae?

We catch a glimpse of the Buganda Queen Nabagereka Sylvia Nagginda on what it means to be queen.

Is he a King?

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Does he hold himself in high regard, is his self-esteem intact, does he command self-respect and self-confidence? If not, is he working on the? These are some of the markings of a Kingly partner

Provided the real Kabaka "is held in high regard and high esteem, commands great respect and authority within the kingdom, but also, but also outside of the kingdom," as the Nabagereka said, his character is the bedrock of these attributes.

However, these qualities don't require a real kingdom to manifest, they are personal.

Consider the relationship vision

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Relationship visions are dictated by a couple's values and needs. Unlike in a real monarch where your duties are laid out for you towards the kingdom, a strong personal vision guides the relationship. So if you are not on the same page on major relationship topics, don't rush to claim the queen spot.

"But then I thought there was a little bit more that I can actually do. So, that's when I step into doing other things. Things that are supportive of the monarch. Things that are supportive of Kabaka," the Nabagereka said in regard to how she adjusted to her status in the Buganda kingdom.

Consider what it means to be his queen

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Being his queen involves actions and getting involved in his life. Is he ready to let you in? Are you ready for that commitment? There is no manual for becoming a Queen as the Nabagereka of Buganda said

"So, I find it always difficult when someone says, how do you feel to be a queen or how do you or how do you learn to be a queen? I think it's just that the title really kind of describes what it is that is expected of you. Like I said, uh, you know, when you get married, of course... you have all the responsibilities of a wife," she said in her interview with Rukh-Shana Namuyimba.

Are you Queen-material?

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The big part of being his queen is being queen-material yourself. The way you handle yourself and your affairs. Do you have your life together outside the relationship? And if you don't, are you working towards that goal?

Let him give you the title

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Really, what's the point of playing Queen when you can be his girlfriend, fiancee, or wife? Some of the ways he makes you his queen is by committing and defining the relationship. Moreover, although external validation is shamed, there's something sweet about him calling you his queen.