Mistakes to avoid when you're involved in a love triangle

Love triangles and unrequited love are some of the painful experiences anyone can have. They are confusing, they play on emotions both positive and negative, and rarely end well for everyone or some of the people involved.

On the surface, the solution is to simply walk away and find someone who wants to be with you. However, it can be hard based on the circumstances surrounding the love triangle.

Regardless of the circumstances, here are some of the mistakes to avoid in a love triangle.

Attacking the 'other' person

Avoid attacking or contacting the person you consider the third party. It will only lead to more pain and frustration and can be dangerous. Completely ignore the other person. Instead, focus on the unifying character, the person whose affection you are fighting for. Get clarity from them and express your feelings to them.

That is who is permitting the other person to interfere whether actively or passively.

Out-competing the 'other' person

Don't break your boundaries or discard your values to win in a love triangle. Your boundaries and values are not the problem. If you abandon yourself, you will be more vulnerable to hurt and rejection. Don't fall into the "I would do anything for you" no matter how tempting it might be. Remember, someone who wants you would not let you reach such a state. When you stay in your lane, you are better equipped to handle yourself and do what is best for you.

Try to convince the person

It hurts when you aren't picked or when you feel discarded for someone else, but take it at face value. If he or she acts like you are an option, that is it. Don't dig deep to find some reason to stay or make them see you. Chances are they don't care and that is also simply a way for you to avoid the pain of losing or heartbreak. Furthermore, a relationship founded on a conflict is not a great start.

Keep score

Forget what you have done and what you haven't for the object of your affection. If you make it about that, you only get entangled in the triangle more and the more significant your suffering. If you did those things out of love, keep that and move on. Moreover, the longer you stay you lose valuable things like time, energy, and mental and emotional health.

Cut your losses and move on or pull back.

Conclusion

Love triangles are complex relationships but you can win if you avoid mistakes like the ones mentioned above. Whether you win the girl or boy or win yourself, the experience doesn't have to be devastating.