On the backdrop of the sunset and 17 years in a happy marriage, Lisa and Tom Bilyeu say "Communicating obsessively," among other practices, helped shape their relationship and marriage.
Relationship journeys and lessons are unique to each person and couple. You cannot copy and paste anyone's relationship, not for long anyway. But just as bad relationship experiences can teach us something, good ones, even those of others, can give us a push. Even when they don't, it is nice to see thriving couples.
Both spotting ecstatic smiles, it is hard to deny the bold words on the whiteboard in front of them. The couple is also successful in the personal wellness niche with their billion-dollar brand Quest Nutrition and motivational videos across the internet.
Here are the experiences that they attribute their success to as a couple.
1. "Have sex often"
Having sex often is not so much about the need/obligation to be intimate but rather the things that keep your sex life alive! If you are having sex often it means you are attracted to each other, emotionally and mentally intimate, and are enjoying your individual lives.
2. "Communicate obsessively"
The means of communication are endless in this day and age but you have to learn to communicate not just obsessively talk and share TikToks.
3. "Lift each other up"
It is you against problems and not each other. When you are busy blaming each other, everyone loses and nothing gets solved. Learn to stay afloat for each other and help up instead of putting down each other for any reason.
4. "Be honest-especially when it's hard"
This is like being told, "Swallow medicine, especially if it's bitter." But if you are swallowing bitter medicine it usually means your condition is serious and the same can be said about honesty. It can be bitter when it is most necessary.
5. "Be a good leader and a good follower"
Know your station and man it with dignity and grace. Fighting to stay in a position that your partner has naturally taken over will not only make you a bad leader, but it will also give you an impossible follower.
6. "Forgive mistakes fast"
If it seems like you cannot forgive fast enough, refer to point number two until the issue is resolved.
7. "Hold each other to a high-ass standard"
There's nothing like "settling" in a relationship if you are partners in personal growth and have high standards in the relationship.
8. "Want the other person to win"
Just because you are not the one giving them the world and they are getting it themselves doesn't make you any less of a team player. Take your wins and each other's wins as they come and cheer for each other.
9. "Make your marriage your highest priority"
The whole point of being together is to be together. A relationship is not an accessory, and even if it is, it is the most valuable you have and requires your attention, energy, and personal growth to stay in good condition.