6 ways to leave the talking stage without getting heartbroken

The talking stage is an early faux relationship that is full of texting and talking, sometimes dates and intimacy, without commitment or labelling.

The first rule of the talking stage seems to be "don't talk about the talking stage". Simply go with the flow, see where things go and wait for something to happen.

Here are six precautions to consider to take care of your commitment-itch or simply avoid the potential heartache.

1. 'The' conversation

Initiate the talk about becoming exclusive if you feel like it is time. Do it in a straightforward manner that reveals your true feelings and intentions.

Whatever answer you get, believe it. Whether it is not what you expected. Then decide if you want to continue or find a new person.

The most excruciating part of the talking stage is not knowing where you stand with someone while knowing what you want.

2. Don't stalk them

It's okay to look through their social media, but don't mistake this for 'knowing' them.

Getting familiar with their social media activity might confuse you into thinking and feeling like there is something solid where there isn't.

In the event that they barely even think about you, let alone look you up, you might be building your own heartache.

3. Set your rules and boundaries

This stage is slippery and emotions can easily spiral out of control. Your boundaries will help you manage your expectations.

They will guide you on how long to let the 'talking' go on, how long you're willing to wait around for anything. What you are willing to do and what you want.

If you catch yourself breaking your rules for someone, examine why. It might be extra work, but nobody said the talking stage is a walk in the park.

4. Don't stick around

It is only natural that some talking stages will die a slow death or quickly fizzle out.

You will not be able to get into a relationship with each person you make a connection with. Don't stick around out of politeness or some other reason when you stop 'feeling it'.

End it and move on, or talk about becoming friends. It will save you both the heartache.

5. Pull away when they start to pull away

If you catch signs of withdrawal, cut back yourself. There is a common saying that people only want what they cannot have.

Don't try to pick up their load if they seem uninterested. Whether it is short texts, extensive time without response or cancelling plans. Do the same.

6. Stay busy

Focus on your life priorities and keep your boundaries alive. Avoid altering anything for a talking stage or being overly available. Give yourself space and be genuine about things happening in your life.

When you get time with someone, let your personality show, your interests and likes. You can never go wrong with being genuine. Plus, if you have hope for anything more, this is the right footing.