4 Reasons you're not over an Ex you don't want back

It can be confusing when you feel 'missy' emotions for someone but can't imagine getting back with them. You might even open communication with them and still get no closure for your feelings.

In this situation temptation to rekindle the relationship might come into the mix. If you get back together a few weeks, or even days, after the fact, you will realize your mistake.

It might help you move on. However, it is not fair to the person and not to you.

Unless you have made it clear that you don't want to get back together.

So what is going on when you find yourself in this situation?

Nostalgia

Present-day events might trigger nostalgia and longing for the relationship or person. You might miss how they handled something, their personality, or their presence.

Also, some people are more sentimental or prone to nostalgia than others. Compare this to the great memory you have of either a moment with a loved one(s).

So many good and bad things have happened since that time. Would you go through all of them to relive that one great memory? In most cases, the answer is no.

Familiarity

You miss their presence in your life or being in a relationship. Your ex held a significant role in your life that meant security and comfort.

Grief

There's no moving on without grieving loss and without recalling the past. Sometimes this means reminiscing with pictures and in significant places and things. Missing them can also be a way of taking a break from grieving or avoiding it.

Habits and routines

After a breakup, you lose a part of who you were and the life you once had. Which can lead to missing the person you shared that part of yourself with and created those habits with.

You may want the old version of your ex you fell in love with. The difference between who they are now and who they used to be can take you can memory lane.

Luckily, the feelings are rarely all-consuming. If they are, then they may be less harsh.

It can mean that a friendship is possible. It may also make you appreciate your current life more.