We all seek stability and security and having things and people we can rely on is important. But we also want to live in the moment. It can be exhausting to seek security in everything and want stability everywhere.
Things about Kampala that will teach you to live in the moment
Clinging to things and experiences can be a painful way to live in Kampala.
So being easygoing is the other half of stability and security.
We all talk about or hear people saying "live in the moment, let go, live laugh love." I am a strong opponent of such sayings. For some people, going with the flow of life is their way of life, it's their personality and that is just who they are. For others like myself, living in the moment and letting go are simply not options. It sounds so irresponsible, out of control, and dangerous to just let things "be".
That is until I started interacting closely with food joints in my neighbourhood. Then I started to understand bits of the workings of letting go and living in the moment.
Pop-up food joints
Food joints come out of nowhere and disappear the same way within short periods of time. This is not about the seasonal foodstuffs sellers, it's about that one old lady I found on my way to work and got fried cassava from her. She had never been there and she was the only person there between residentials just casually selling cassava in a plastic bucket.
Looking back on that moment, it was very irresponsible to buy from her and I'm still not sure if it was a ghost or not. She has never returned since that day.
The ever-changing quality of food
This is common among new food establishments. They will start with high-quality taste and packaging and you will thank God for bringing them around. The pieces of chicken are huge, the cakes are golden and hot, and the mandazis are golden and just right on the sugar.
You tell your family or neighbours about them and you simply cannot get enough! It seems like it will always be this way, you hope they are different and commit to maintaining the flow of quality goods.
But with time, the quality drops, sometimes they don't make anything, the quantity drops, and worst of all, they change to a different product completely deserting the golden egg.
Another one bites the dust!
If you love something, let it go. If it comes back, then it was meant for you. Yet another saying that I loathe with my entire being. Completely repulsed by it. And yet, it is a great tool when dealing with money lending. If you decide to lend someone money, be prepared to forget about it otherwise it may consume you.
One technique I have noticed among friends is lending someone money and if they don't return it, they will not come for more. Give out what you can afford to lose.
These situations have not made a great impact on my dislike for "live, laugh and love in the moment" but I have come to appreciate every new thing that comes and enjoy it as much as possible. The pop-up bars and restaurants and quality of service provision will be a topic for another day.
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