7 positive things that happen when you give up on finding love

Often when people give up on finding their one true love, they can become cynical. It is seen as a failure either of their part or other people's flaws or even love's fault. But there's a bright side to this experience that goes unnoticed on many ocassions.

1. You know what you want

When you understand what you want and need, you start to place more value on those things than the experience of finding and being in love. You know want you need and you are willing to wait for it in someone else as much as you give it to yourself.

2. You give up the timeline

You know the life goals, "I want to be married by 26", "I want to be set in my career by 35" etc. Unfortunately, life rarely happens at our pace either by our own limitations or external ones. Giving up the timeline is hard, but rewarding, and love can be worth it.

3. You enjoy dating

Giving up on love does not mean giving up on dating. This is where experience and strength come from, and who doesn't love a good/nightmare dating story. Dating is never a waste of time.

Without the goal of finding love with everyone you find, you become relaxed to be yourself and front your needs and wants while seeing people for who they are.

4. You experience other joys in your life

There's so much happening in your life but finding love can blind you to these events. Perhaps you have a new hobby, a new purpose, a new social circle, or you are taking care of yourself. Moreover, you have a chance at making great friends and learning new things from dating too.

5. You appreciate where you are in life

Sometimes giving up on finding love means appreciating the stage at which you are in your life. Finding love takes a lot of work which you might not be capable of at the moment. Instead, you can focus your energy and effort to other things that you value and can devote yourself to.

6. Positive attitude

Looking for love comes with a certain level of pressure that can foster a negative attitude. This negative attitude can be hard to drop later on. When you give up on love, it can be therapeutic to take a break. Have more positive experiences in other areas of your life.